Daring’s darlings

I have a cringe-worthy group photo from my high school days.  I am at teen leadership conference, and for some assuredly good reasons—that escape me now—I wore mismatched Converse high tops, boxer shorts as pantaloons, an old tweet jacket, my Mohawk, and a pair of gargantuan pink-tinted glasses. I look equal parts ludicrous and unreasonably proud. But I was “all in”—fully present and engaged in the work of the group and confident in my opinions.  Youth possesses daring and authenticity that often depreciates as we age.

I remembered this photo the other day while engaged in a rich discussion at the Boys and Girls Club. My friend Byron Stookey and I had contacted the inimitable Ricky Davidson to see if we could talk with area youth about their views on economic development and job opportunities in Brattleboro. Our discussion was part of a commitment that Byron and I made over a year ago to seek out voices on the edges of the critical conversation about the economic health of our region. As a member of the Southeastern Vermont Economic Development Strategies (SeVEDS) workforce committee, I know that despite the numerous meetings and forums held to hear from area residents while the Comprehensive Economic Development Strategies (CEDS) document was crafted, there were  voices we didn’t hear; some folks simply don’t attend public meetings. Byron and I have been trying to fill in the holes.

We learned so much. These impressive young leaders expressed worries about the easy drugs available in our town, and they named the “sketchy” areas around town they try to avoid. Most said they feel generally safe now but would have real concerns about raising their own children here. They all seemed to appreciate the town’s artsy flair and cultural offerings, but they worried that young locals are being left behind.

One young woman said, “It is so hard to afford a date night in this town!” The others readily agreed. Now that Frankie’s Pizza is gone, there’s no place in the downtown district where one can grab a cheap slice. They also wished the Latchis could offer a cheaper “movie night” option for teens.  Many said that the shops in Brattleboro “aren’t for us.” And several commented that Brattleboro is “too into the local thing” and “caught between hippies and tourists.” “It is hard for us to buy things we need,” they explained, “and we can’t find jobs here. Nobody wants to hire a teen.”

Many bemoaned the fact that they cannot buy affordable teen clothing downtown. More than one said “they’d kill” for a clothing shop geared towards them: an Urban Outfitters, PacSun or Forever 21. Now they drive to New Hampshire or Massachusetts to do their clothes shopping. As one teen pointed out, “Burlington and Northampton have some of these chain shops, and that hasn’t “ruined” their towns.”

These students come from a variety of socio-economic backgrounds and experiences. Some plan to stay in the area as adults; others suspect that their interests and passions will lead them elsewhere. All cared deeply about this town and their place in it.

At the beginning of the meeting, Ricky reminded the teens that we truly wanted to hear their thoughts. His dogged determination to honor and champion these young people shone as he shared the astounding number of community service hours these students have contributed to area organizations.  He reminded us that we must have the courage to be vulnerable in order to be seen and heard.

He said, “Speak even if your voice shakes.” Brené Brown—research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work and best-selling author—writes and lectures extensively on courage, vulnerability and shame. Her 2012 book, “Daring Greatly,” has been a companion to my work with Byron and has guided my thinking about listening deeply to others’ perspectives.

Brown starts her book with a quote from Teddy Roosevelt’s speech “Citizen in a Republic”—the so-called “Man in the Arena” speech—delivered at the Sorbonne in Paris over a hundred years ago. One particular passage addresses her themes: “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again…if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly…”

Brown asserts that we want to experience others’ vulnerability, but we don’t want to be vulnerable. We are inspired by the willingness of others to be vulnerable and authentic, but we feel weak when we think about showing our own true selves. In this way, Ricky Davidson is a tremendous model for these teens: He shows authenticity and vulnerability in his work each and every day. And the teens at the Boys and Girls Club respond.

They openly discussed their fears and hopes for our town and region, and they shared their disappointments. This took honesty, courage, and a trust that someone on the other end would truly listen to their unabashed candor.

Like my 18-year-old self in the preposterous outfit and outrageous hairdo, these students—much more reasonably dressed, I might add—embody the importance of daring greatly. Byron and I have gained a much deeper understanding of our town by listening to the opinions they were courageous enough to share with two strangers.

 

 

Taxing tensions

“Where you stand depends on where you sit,” she said.

I’d heard this political adage before, but this time it truly resonated. We’d been discussing the Brattleboro town budget, and we both conceded that our day-to-day experiences in this town shape our views. As a mom, I see my whole world through the lens of my young children. I want strong schools; I want solid infrastructure that supports town services and invites new residents and businesses. I want a safe town, equipped to deal with the heroin onslaught, and I want a robust economy that will lift local children out of poverty.

I am willing to swallow the bitter pill of higher taxes because I have the comfort afforded by the long view. And I know that, in all likelihood, my family will not have to choose between buying heating oil or paying our property taxes. I am fortunate. But it is not solely my good fortune that drives my position. It is the love of my offspring and my fear about the future—theirs, mine and Brattleboro’s.

If I were retired and subsisting on an inadequate fixed income, I necessarily would have a very different perspective on the budgetary crisis. Rising taxes might be my preeminent concern—even if it meant critical infrastructure went untended or town services got cut. I received an email from a reader several weeks back in which his fear was palpable. He described how an older neighbor of his—a local landlord—is thinking of selling of his “retirement” investment because he is losing money. The rising costs of heat, hot water and taxes make it untenable for him, but he feels trapped. Like others I’ve talked to, the soft real estate market forces his hand, and he stays put. In my own neighborhood, the immaculately maintained house directly behind mine has been on the market for two years. Other friends will most likely sell their house at a loss.

If I were among the scores of residents living in poverty, I would feel the proposed budget cuts to sidewalk plowing, the library, and the rec department acutely. The rec department is a life saver; parents can provide their children with healthy recreation even if they have little more than pocket change at their disposal. And one need only look at the library’s doors before they open each day to see this institution’s great worth to the town. The throngs gathered represent a broad cross-section of residents, but the library is a physical refuge for the poor and a critical information portal for those without access to computers. The cruel irony is that some of the proposed budget cuts—in order to make life more affordable in this town—would affect the poorest among us most deeply.

In a recent conversation with a town employee, she conceded, “I am biased.”  She is. But so we all are. We are shaped by our experiences, our history, and the demands of our fears and hopes. We cannot stop listening deeply to our neighbors; nor can we move the conversation forward by accusations nested in unfounded mistrust. One selectboard member shared with me that it is really demoralizing to work so very hard and receive emails that begin with the phrase, “You people…” When basic civility breaks down, it is time to seek the meta-view and take comfort in the realization that we Brattleborians are certainly not alone. Towns all over Vermont have reached a breaking point over taxes and expenditures.

The sluggish economy, a flat grand list, the downturn in the real estate market, rising poverty, lack of economic development, our incapacitated Brooks House block, and the chickens coming home to roost in regard to deferred maintenance and infrastructure repairs all contribute. But one Technicolor Dumbo in the room is the unwieldy, impenetrable statewide school-funding mechanism.  One would be hard pressed to find an individual who could accurately depict all its moving parts, but the results are obvious: Our school budgets increase even when local boards level fund their schools.

Clearly, our issues are greater than Brattleboro, and we must continue to engage at the regional and state level to unravel these complicated quandaries.

At the local level, we must do the difficult work of attacking our budgetary problems together. The recent huge turnouts at select board budget meetings have buoyed my spirits. When we have more people—from a wide swath of the Brattleboro experience—fully involved in brainstorming possible solutions, we have a better chance of crafting remedies that honor the diversity of our day-to-day experiences.   I hope we will make small but significant changes to the town budget now, but hold off on bigger ones until we get critical input from more residents in the next cycle. But people need to show up.

The other day, for the first time since moving to Vermont 17 years ago, I became disoriented on a run. I started out on familiar pathways and well-worn trails, but as I got deeper in the woods, I lost my sense of direction and landmarks by which to navigate.  I eventually worked my way back to town, after three miles had turned into six miles, and I was late to a meeting. But once I was safely home the unexpected detour offered a fresh perspective.

We have been lost. We have loped along on the same routes hoping desperately for a different outcome. The unprecedented public engagement in the current budget discussions perhaps means we’ve finally reached a breaking point. And from the current crisis grows the potential that we can develop a new way forward that combines both irrepressible optimism and a sober assessment that things must change.

 

 

 

Sterling and Silver

For those of you who still held out hope that the nation that elected President Obama is a “post-racial” society, the news out of L.A. this week was an abhorrent reminder of the tenacity of racial prejudice. Donald Sterling—owner of the NBA Los Angeles Clippers franchise—made headlines when his surreptitiously recorded boorish racial rant went public. On tape, he tells his former girlfriend that he doesn’t want her to post pictures of herself on social media in which she poses with black people. He clearly should spend more time worrying about his own image.

A friend recently commented that Sterling looks like the love child of Jack Klugman and Jabba-the-Hutt, but, like Jabba, the billionaire real estate developer clearly had clout. Now that the spotlight is more finely attuned to his disgraceful record of past prejudice and “plantation” mentality, former Clipper general manager Elgin Baylor—who unsuccessfully sued Sterling for racial discrimination—will finally feel vindicated. And NBA Commissioner Adam Silver’s maximum fine and lifetime ban of Sterling sets a new tone of complete intolerance for racism within the NBA. But why did it take so long?

Sterling, whose lackluster team has long been the butt of jokes, was well-known throughout the NBA—and beyond—for racism. But recently, after his team finally started to win games, the NBA and the public seemed to have tacitly accepted that, although he’s a bigoted lout, at least he now runs a winning franchise. All’s fair in victory and profit?  Gene Demby, of NPR’s Code Switch, points out that Sterling’s $2.7 million settlement of a lawsuit brought by the Justice Department because of discrimination in his rental properties was the largest payout ever for housing discrimination. After the settlement became public, the NBA issued no fines or sanctions against Sterling and seems to have wholly ignored the issue.  Although the tape recording was a smoking gun, there has been enough smoke hovering around Sterling for years that someone higher up in the NBA should have long ago yelled, “Fire!”

Jay Jaffe, writing for Sports Illustrated points out that Major League Baseball took on Marge Schott—former Cincinnati Reds owner— when she made repeated offensive comments about African Americans, Jews, and women. Schott was the first woman to purchase a controlling share of a Major League Baseball Team, but her “status as a pioneer was buried amid her limitless capacity to offend,” writes Jaffe. Like Schott was to baseball, Jaffe argues, Sterling is a blight on the NBA. Commissioner Silver must be unwavering and methodical in rebuking owners and coaches for repugnant statements and actions.

My backdrop to this Sterling and Silver scandal has been David Levering Lewis’ Pulitzer prize-winning biography of African American historian, sociologist and intellectual W.E.B. DuBois. I purchased Levering Lewis’ two-part biography of Du Bois (each of which won the Pulitzer for biography) years ago, but had not finally cracked them open until last week—days before Sterling’s disturbing comments. After finishing Annette Gordon-Reed’s recent biography of Andrew Johnson, I felt compelled to dive in. As Reconstruction foundered under Johnson, and the nation began the horrid slide into Jim Crow and unconscionable violence, there were, as always, incredible stories of African American men and women who wrought lives for themselves—lives lived among people that would have them disappear or be shipped to Africa’s distant shores.

As I read the inspiring story of the erudite W.E.B DuBois, I marvel at his talent, curiosity, and drive. DuBois never doubts that he has what it takes to achieve academic greatness—despite constant reminders from a nation unwilling to truly grapple with hundreds of years of exploitation and underestimation of black people. DuBois, like all his African American contemporaries, yearned for respect in the broken, but not chastened, South and the gritty, unforgiving North.

Certain moments in the text force rumination on the depth and scope of suffering shaped by the weighty fear of difference. When DuBois and his wife lose their two-year-old son to diphtheria, they follow behind the cart carrying the tiny coffin to the Atlanta train station to be brought home to Great Barrington, MA. Even while engulfed by profound grief, they are not afforded any propriety or solemnity. White onlookers call out, “Niggers!” as they walk in a haze of sorrow and loathing. The year is 1899; the war is decades over and yet freedom never coalesces; it is a noble notion, unrealized. Because emancipation is not simply about manumission; it is about freeing the spirit and allowing it to live its true potential.

DuBois labored his entire adult life to re-frame society’s beliefs about African Americans and their capacity for intellectualism. Much has been made of DuBois’ clash with contemporary Booker T. Washington over whether African Americans would find salvation through hard work and industrial education or by rigorous classical study. But this famous disagreement should not obscure DuBois’ most important principle:  the conviction that all men should have “intelligence, broad sympathy, knowledge of the world that was and is, and of the relation of men to it” in order to fashion a “true life.”  Every man must balance the “skill of hand and quickness of brain, with never a fear lest the child and man mistake the means of living for the object of life.”

Despite Donald Sterling’s delusions of grandeur as a modern NBA plantation master lording over his African American “slaves”, he is but a “boy.” I mean “boy” said with the full weight and scorn of lifetimes of derision that DuBois and millions of others have endured at the hands of ignorant men who never fully embodied the wisdom and understanding of the brotherhood of man.

Scrap the interview

On a glorious run through the scrub brush in the wild lands of Wyoming, my brother-in-law remarked between breaths, “Interviews are worthless. Totally, utterly pointless. They don’t actually give you any reliable information.  We only think they do. And we’re completely wrong.” Now, my dear brother-in-law is something of an adorable, argumentative curmudgeon and sometimes stakes out a controversial position just to move the conversation in an interesting direction. I thought perhaps this was one of those times. But he was emphatic and cited numerous books and studies to support his assertion that traditional job interviews are, in fact, pointless.

I checked his facts, and he’s right. The overwhelming body of evidence concerning job interviews supports his assertion. Interviews do not give the interviewer an accurate sense of whether or not a potential applicant can do a good job. A solid interview does not  predict success. So why do we still do them?

For one, they serve as a kind of security blanket. We want to be sure we “like” the candidate. But Don Moore—associate professor at the Haas School of Business at UC Berkeley—notes, “Interviews favor candidates who are attractive, sociable, articulate, and tall. They also favor manipulative candidates, or ones who know how to make a positive impression even in a brief interview. But those aren’t always the best job performers.” We all have examples of “likeable” hires who interviewed well but turned out to be complete disasters.

When Moore’s MBA students conducted interviews with two other classmates and then guessed who would perform better on the midterm exam, their success rate was not much better than simply flipping a coin: just over 50%. “We all want to believe we are good judges of character,” he explains, but we don’t bother to collect the real evidence we need to determine job performance. We instead rely on wholly unreliable “gut instinct.”

Google did their own internal assessment of the efficacy of their interviews and concluded they were deeply flawed. Laszlo Bock, Google’s senior vice president of people operations, explains, “We looked at tens of thousands of interviews, and everyone who had done the interview and what they scored the candidate, and how that person ultimately performed in their job. We found zero relationship.” Bock describes it as a “complete random mess.” Supervisors were not very successful at picking the right members for their teams.

Interview teams also bring inherent cultural, racial, and gender bias with them into an interview. A 2003 experiment conducted by Columbia School of Business professor Frank Flynn and New York University professor Cameron Anderson illustrates our prejudicial assumptions. Flynn and Anderson gave students identical applicant profiles to assess; the only difference was that one applicant was named Heidi, the other was named Howard. The students rated both applicants equally competent, but Howard was viewed as more favorable a candidate. Men and women alike categorized “Heidi”  as aggressive and difficult to work with—simply because of her successful track record.

I witnessed this unconscious gender bias firsthand  when I was on an interview team. A female candidate answered a direct question about her accomplishments, citing many examples of successful programs she’d instituted. A male candidate answering the same question was personable but did not give a direct answer. During the  debrief, many on the team forgot his evasive answer, but the female candidate was labeled “aggressive” for tooting her own horn.

From a job-seeker’s standpoint, too, sometimes interviews are a waste of time. My worst interview ever? One in which members of the interview committee held unconcealed hostility toward each other. I felt I’d walked into a dysfunctional Thanksgiving supper—without the wine and promised dessert. As each day passed after the interview, I recalled more awkward and unprofessional comments from that cringe-worthy ordeal. Although it always stings when you don’t get a job, in this instance the pain of rejection was assuaged by the feeling that I had just dodged a bazooka.

Megan McArdle, writing for the Daily Beast, argues that although interviews are a good way to assess whether someone appears to be sociable or charming, they don’t help determine if a candidate is “hardworking, honest, or supportive of their team members when things go wrong.” Many Human Relations directors have argued that although this may be true, the thinking has always been that at least they won’t hurt a good candidate’s chance of being hired.

Not so, says Jason Dana at the Yale School of Management. His research indicates that “unstructured interviews are worse than invalid; they actually decrease accuracy.” Dana says this is because we are prone to “dilution” and “sensemaking.” When we are bombarded with too much non-diagnostic information, our brains “dilute” the valuable information. We don’t ignore extraneous information, and we start to reduce our reliance on “good information.”  We seek out information that proves a preconceived impression of a candidate. Dana explains that if a candidate offers a response that is inconsistent with the interviewer’s impression, the interviewer will reformulate their “sensemaking” until the candidate’s answers seem to match their impression of the candidate. We want a narrative—a story—that makes sense, so when we don’t hear one, we create one for ourselves.

So what’s an employer to do? If you’re not ready to scrap the interview entirely—despite the convincing evidence—create a more structured interview process in which each applicant is asked the same questions. Employ a scoring rubric that lists the specific skills, qualities and experience needed in the job. Each candidate can then be measured against this score sheet and not simply assessed by the wattage of their sparkling smile or their ability to turn on the charm.

My little collector

Each morning I sidestep miniature pirate accoutrement strewn across the floor and gather my kids’ coats and backpacks. As I reach for the doorknob, my son gives me a desperate look and cries, “We forgot my Playmobil magazine!” I dutifully swallow my stock speech about how “we” is not really appropriate here. Instead, I prompt him to look in all the usual spots. He locates his much-cherished catalogue and stuffs the dog-eared guide in his backpack. Around this time I start to feel like Bill Murray in “Groundhog Day”—reliving the same banal scenario over and over again with no inkling that a scintilla of change has been made. Like that hapless weatherman stuck in the wretched time-loop, I search for meaning in this absurd routine.

My son is a Playmobil collector, one might say ‘aficionado.’ And like any collector, he studies his compilation constantly. Although many parents with Mensa aspirations for their kids may push their offspring towards a collection with more gravitas and substance, say, stamps or currency, kids choose their own collecting obsessions. I guess I should be grateful he hasn’t latched on to Pokémon cards or a collection of animal scat.

A friend joked recently that Playmobil designers hate parents. Considering the infinitesimal pirate treasure that scatters absolutely everywhere, the miniscule “snap on” cuffs for the soldiers, and tiny flip flops for Playmobil beach goers, she has a point. More than once I’ve called out, “Curse you, Playmobil!” while cleaning the house. A pal coached me to just suck up the Playmobil accessories with my vacuum sans guilt, but I know that would bring more heartache. You see, like any avid collector, my son knows exactly which swords fit with which pirate set, which treasure chest goes with which boat, and he will assuredly enlist my assistance to search. And search. And search. If the piece in question is actually in the vacuum, I am doomed to a life of eternal searching.

Once we looked for a Viking’s plastic hair for days. It had popped off and rolled behind the file cabinet. Despite my urgings that we substitute hair from one of the other Viking figures, my son reminded me that the hair in question was orange. He couldn’t possibly make the Viking a towhead or brunette. It’s not that he isn’t willing to mix and match his accessories; he just knew that he had only a few redheads in his collection; he wasn’t going to let it go that easily.

Hans Beck certainly knew what he was doing when he invented the nearly 3 inch tall Playmobil figures in 1971. A cabinetmaker and model airplane designer, he developed the now ubiquitous play figures, but German toymakers were initially uninterested. All that changed with the worldwide oil crisis of 1973-4, as toymakers sought to develop toys that required less plastic.

Beck explained to the Christian Science Monitor in 1997, “My figures were quite simple, but they allowed children room for their imagination.” His figures—first referred to as “klickies”—haven’t really changed over the years: The heads, arms, legs and hands still move, and the figures still have benign smiles and no noses.  Andrea Schauer, CEO of Playmobil manufacturer geobra Branstätter, said in a recent interview that although the figures haven’t changed much in four decades, Playmobil takes children’s feedback very seriously: “After all, children are the ones who have to like our products.” She asserts that although their sets still allow for great imaginative play, “Playmobil play worlds have become more sophisticated and diverse.”

Occasionally—despite having sold over 2.6 billion figures—Playmobil misses the mark. There was that 19th Chinese Railroad worker “coolie” display that customers found in poor taste. And then there was a set featuring medieval punishments: public stocks for smiley criminals and a “baker’s cage” for dunking in the river those tiny bakers whose loaves are deemed substandard. Beck insists that you must show all sides of history, distasteful for not.

I can think of more than a few important exceptions to this assertion, but I have to admit my 6-year-old son has already learned a tremendous amount about history from his Playmobil sets. We’ve had rich, detailed conversations about the era of the Caribbean pirates, types of Roman weaponry and the wooly mammoths of the Ice Age. He even loves to crack jokes about his Playmobil figures: “Mom, you know why these people couldn’t have made those cave drawings and hand prints? They can’t open their fingers!” He then demonstrates what it would look like for figures with hands curved in a permanent “C” to make artwork. It is funny. Every time.

Mark McKinley, writing in “The National Psychologist”, lists the many reasons why humans collect things: for fun and enjoyment, connecting with others who share similar interests, or viewing it as a big quest. Still others derive pleasure from “experimenting with arranging, re-arranging, and classifying parts of a-big-world-out-there.” According to McKinley, collecting can also serve as a means of control to elicit a comfort zone in one’s life—a way to calm fears and ease insecurity.

Knowing that there are important social and psychological reasons behind this Playmobil obsession soothes my anxiety and eases my insecurity as we watch his desire for set after set.  When he says he wants all the Playmobils in the world, he’s not kidding.  We feel unsupportive of his collection when we joke that we will not drain his as yet meagre college fund to support his collecting habit. But unlike in the time warp of “Groundhog Day”, there’s always a fresh new day—complete with new Playmobils—and we are assuredly going to make a few more trips to the store.

 

“It ain’t the tailor.”

There’s a story that director and musician Melvin Van Peebles tells about when he first took up running. He didn’t want to invest in appropriate exercise apparel, so he’d dash out the door in an old jacket, two pairs of sweatpants, some old Converse sneakers, and a cap pulled down over his head. He recalls one fateful run when he crossed 7th Ave in NYC and saw a “tough guy” heading towards him; he thought he might be a “junkie.” He explains, “[T]his guy looks horrible—snot’s coming out of his nose—and I’m coming right towards him, and when I move, he moves, and I’m thinking ‘Okay—come right for me!’” At the last second Van Peebles realizes that he is running towards a giant mirror that had just been installed on a hotel. After months of denial about his weight gain—and his raggedy jogging clothes, Van Peebles literally had to look himself squarely in the eye to size up his situation. He finally conceded, “It ain’t the tailor.”

This is not unlike the situation we find ourselves in as we wrestle—once again—with the cost of the Brattleboro police/fire renovations. A petition demanding a town-wide budget vote has garnered enough signatures and a date has been set for this Thursday, April 17. Those opposed to the police/fire project would like to reject the entire budget to, in the words of some of the supporters, “send a message” to the Selectboard and town meeting reps whom they say are out of touch with voters. As we examine our predicament, the truth is painful. Our tax burden is growing to unsustainable proportions, and we simultaneously need to deal with the awful working conditions for our first responders. Our elected town meeting representatives and Selectboard are not out of touch: There is no simple or satisfying answer to this problem.

The working conditions at the police station and the fire department are unhealthy and unsafe. We ask our first responders to risk their lives in the line of duty; we ought to provide a decent, safe work environment for them when they are not out on call. The conditions are a lawsuit-in-the-making, whether from an employee developing respiratory distress due to continual exposure to mold or diesel fumes, or from a suspect or police officer sustaining a neck or head injury on those aging, treacherous stairs at the police station. According to an engineering study, the floor in the Central Fire Station was not built to withstand the load of modern trucks. Will we wait until the weight becomes too much and there is a catastrophic accident?

We have been kicking this can down the road for decades. It is time to do the necessary work to shore up our critical infrastructure.

There is legitimate concern about our tax burden in Brattleboro and what increased taxes will mean for the poor, the elderly on fixed incomes, and for homeowners who are currently just barely able to stay in their homes. Some residents express deep fear about what the future holds; their personal disquiet reflects a larger sense of unease in our town. We would like to be a safe, simple New England town, but the interstate brings big city problems to our doorsteps. The drug trade is all too real. It is fair to assume that the police and fire departments will continue to bear the brunt of this struggle. Our diverse and vibrant community must cobble together a bulwark of decency and civility against the onslaught. This is not the time to turn away from the tough decisions. We must be “all in.”

Some residents claim, “We have champagne tastes on a beer budget. We can’t afford this project.” I think, “No, we must sober up. We can’t afford not to complete this project.” We must look to our future and believe there are better days ahead for our town and region. We cannot let our infrastructure crumble around us. Do we view ourselves as a town in decline? Or do we see the prosperity and promise the future holds? Will we leave the problems for our children, or will we leave this town in better shape than we found it? A strong infrastructure is critical for the long term health of the community and our economy.

Many different groups considered various sites and permutations of this project. Many favored renovations over building one main police/fire facility due to budget concerns and “call time” factors. If we relocate our first responders to one centralized location, those residents on the edges of town will have much longer wait times for vital assistance.

Some townspeople want to stretch the project out over more time to save money. But this piecemeal approach will assuredly cost more. Indeed, it will cost us more to renovate now than if we had we done the work when it was first seriously considered years ago.

There is an oversight committee of town residents keeping an eagle eye on the bottom line and scope of the project. One member of the team, Stephen Phillips, is a representative who initially, vocally opposed the project. Worried about the project’s cost and wanting to educate himself about the details, Phillips volunteered his time on this important town committee. He and the rest of the team have been able to shave off hundreds of thousands of dollars from the cost. I greatly respect Phillips—and the rest of the group—for due diligence, commitment, and the willingness to fully engage with a very thorny problem.

If the budget is defeated, it will not scuttle this necessary infrastructure project. We can expect the library, the rec department, and other town services to take the hits instead.

Like every other member of town meeting, and those fulfilling their utterly thankless duties on the selectboard, I do not want increased taxes. But my strong distaste for a greater tax burden does not exceed my unflinching belief that this is a question of proper stewardship.

 

 

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Rethinking Taft

Completing Doris Kearns Goodwin’s hefty masterpiece, “The Bully Pulpit: Theodore Roosevelt, William Howard Taft, and the Golden Age of Journalism”, I felt I was bidding farewell to a dear friend. So rich is her narrative, so compelling the characters, that along with a tremendous sense of satisfaction from a job well done—hers and mine—I marveled at my new understanding of President William Taft. He is considered a generally unsuccessful president, but he was undoubtedly a kind soul. As I flipped through the 150 pages of endnotes that followed, I ruefully accepted that the complexity—and the genuine goodness—of a person are often shortchanged through the process of historical shorthand.

In many history textbooks, you’ll find obligatory anecdotes about the size of the White House bathtub and tidbits about Taft’s life-long struggles with his weight. Perhaps anyone taking office after Teddy Roosevelt would inevitably have paled in comparison to the fiery Bull Moose. But as a former history teacher, I feel I failed President Taft. His many talents have been lost to time’s tendency to simplify and reduce.

Taft certainly was not adroit or comfortable cajoling and browbeating Congressmen to pass his legislative agenda. But he brought many more anti-trust suits than his progressive Republican predecessor, Roosevelt—the “Great Trust-Buster.” Taft’s inability to woo the media as effectively as Roosevelt, coupled with several high-profile strategic missteps, overshadowed his impressive legacy of public service.  But, he came to the presidency with a stellar track record.

Although he opposed the United States’ expansionism in the Philippines, President McKinley eventually persuaded Taft that the region needed his skills. In short order he progressed from highly-effective president of the commission overseeing the Philippines, to much-beloved Governor General. Kearns Goodwin recounts how Taft and his wife Nellie mastered the complicated national dance—the rigodon—which required both grace and stateliness. Taft’s surprisingly agile dancing was a smash hit and a highly visible example of his love for his adopted culture. When he returned to the Philippines years later, Taft was welcomed “home” by throngs of supporters of all classes. He confided to family it pleased him enormously to connect to all Filipinos, regardless of social and economic status.

Just as Taft cultivated the trust and respect of the Filipino people, similarly did he instill confidence when he served under Teddy Roosevelt.   At the beginning of Roosevelt’s second term, the president embarked on a two-month vacation. (Can you imagine? We excoriate President Obama for a long weekend on Martha’s Vineyard!) While away from the White House, Roosevelt left Taft in charge of the duties of both the Secretary of War and Secretary of State, as Secretary John Hay was ill. Roosevelt reassured reporters: “Oh, things will be all right. I have left Taft sitting on the lid.” Good old dependable Will Taft could serve as “acting President”; indeed, the press seems to have entirely ignored Vice President Charles Fairbanks.

Unlike Roosevelt, who was socially awkward and had difficulty making friends in college, Taft had many admirers. His classmates called him “Big Bill”, and Kearns Goodwin reports, “[h]is affable disposition and genial companionship with students of all backgrounds combined to make him the most popular man in the freshman class.” One friend remarked that to watch Taft stride across the campus was to “take a fresh hold on life.” Another classmate of Taft’s, Herbert Bowen, recalled that Taft was the most admired and respected student at the college. Many students sought his counsel and his company; this continued throughout his life.

His charisma and thoughtfulness made him a trusted leader, but Taft never desired a life in politics. Kearns Goodwin builds a strong case that Taft desperately sought approval: first from his parents, then from his wife.  He subsequently made career decisions that often went against both his heart’s desires and his basic nature. He had no affection for the rough and tumble—often dirty and mean—world of party politics. His greatest, most enduring desire was to be appointed to the U.S. Supreme Court. And although he did finally attain this most coveted position after he left the Presidency, Taft had turned down the appointment several times before. He felt a powerful duty to complete other projects—like his complex work in the Philippines. His letters reveal his fervent feeling that he could not abandon the Filipinos at that critical time in their journey for self-determination.

Throughout his life, Taft’s character was one of honor, integrity and dependability. But there was also a formidable resolve that surprised me, as he clawed back from several major hardships. Will Taft’s beloved spouse suffered a severe stroke within three months of his inauguration; Nellie never fully regained her communication abilities. Taft also endured nasty public attacks by his former pal and colleague, Teddy Roosevelt, when Roosevelt broke his word and ran against Taft to seek a third term. And then Taft lost his most trusted advisor and dear friend, Archie Butts—in the midst of a vicious primary season—when Butts died on the Titanic. The loss devastated Taft.

Even just one intense hardship could scuttle one’s success and shatter any remaining confidence. And yet, Will Taft was driven by a profound sense of duty to his country and obligation to his family. He never wavered in his commitment to his job, which he considered a tremendous honor. Although he certainly was not the most dexterous executive in the oval office, he was one of the most genuine. As we gear up for yet another bruising, arduous Presidential primary marathon, I’m grateful to Kearns Goodwin for reminding me to look for the true Public Servants in the field.

Making payroll

After consuming a delectable meal in my childhood home, we often urged my dad to start his own restaurant. His response was always the same: “I love to cook, but running a successful business is endless hard work. I don’t want to take that on.” He understood the many obstacles to success and knew just how much blood and sweat he would need to keep the tears at bay. Only after I worked several restaurant jobs in my 20s did I truly begin to understand what he meant. While doing kitchen prep and baking, as well as waiting tables and bussing, I learned about the tight profit margin. I also realized the many ways in which the public often misunderstood our work and our compensation.

Each Saturday night the same couple would order a lobster dinner and then run the waitstaff ragged with special requests. Their whopping tip at the end of the night? Always the same: 2 bucks. While we hustled and got stiffed on the gratuity, the owners huddled in the office sorting out how to keep the business solvent. We’d all track the number of dinners we’d sent out for the night, the week, and the month. Occasionally we’d break out the expensive wine and beer at the end of a particularly successful night. More often, we’d recall past glory when the tables turned over quickly, the front of the house buzzed, and the kitchen got pleasantly slammed by a flood of diners.

When you own a small business, your financial fate keeps you up at night. You hope to skate on the right side of the profit margin. And regardless of the week you’ve had, you must cover your overhead and make payroll. From 2007-2011, more small businesses closed in Vermont than opened, and there was a net loss of employees in the small business sector. And yet, we are still a state of small businesses.

A February 2013 report by the U.S. Small Business Administration describes how over 96% of Vermont’s employers are small businesses; most of our small businesses are very small. Over 76% have no employees other than the owners, and most others have fewer than 20 employees. According to the Vermont Agency of Commerce and Community Development’s 2013 Report on Advanced Manufacturing, around 60% of advanced manufacturers have fewer than 10 employees; about 87% have 50 or fewer employees. Over a thousand Vermont advanced manufacturers have 5 or fewer employees. Like the individual patchwork that so many Vermont families cobble together to make ends meet, Vermont itself is a hodgepodge of small businesses. These businesses, along with Vermont’s diversified agricultural endeavors, are the infrastructure of our economy.

We often hear that we’re mired in a New Gilded Age. Our nation has outrageous income disparity we’ve not seen since Vermont’s own Calvin Coolidge took office. Boston Globe political cartoonist Dan Wasserman drew a scathing indictment of this inequality: In the time it takes to stand at a urinal, a CEO of a large company can now make 4 times as much as a minimum-wage worker makes in a year.  But when we rightfully rail against income inequality, we need to remember that, for the most part, Vermont is not full of “big business.”

A small business owner in the area recently summed up the sentiment of many local employers: “Nobody seems to get how hard it is to keep a business going in this terrible economic environment.”  Another asked, bewildered, “When did “profit” become such a vulgar word? I work really long hours and provide a service. For the first few years in my business, I did not draw a salary to speak of. I took the risk. I always have to cover my overhead and pay my employees first.” Like other small business owners, he shakes his head at what feels is, at best, a misunderstanding and, at worst, an underlying distrust.

If a business survives, it can potentially employ others. If it does well, it can possibly expand and boost our grand list. (Something we very desperately need in this town.) If a business owner has a surplus of capital, she has critical disposable income to invest in our vibrant (but often financially pressed) arts and music community.

The tenor and scope of discourse clearly needs to shift. These businesses do so much for our economy. We need each other.

There are some tangible ways in which we can help. We can publicly support successful local businesses, like Against the Grain, when and if the owners want to expand.  We can be more engaged and vocal with our Windham County legislators so that we ensure that any new state legislation passed will “first do no harm” to small businesses. We can be more rigorous in funding programs that encourage entrepreneurship, business incubators, and the creation of more local businesses.

Locally, we can organize targeted “buy out” days like the ones started by Leroy Jones of the Neighbors and Neighbors project in Miami, FL. Jones spearheaded days in which small, struggling local businesses were the recipients of publicized, directed buying sprees. Hundreds of area residents pledged to spend a small amount of money at a particular business on a specific day. This sudden influx of cash enabled businesses to make necessary improvements that they wouldn’t have been able to afford otherwise. And residents learned of local businesses to patronize for the items they needed.

In order to sustain and grow Vermont’s strong entrepreneurial record, we must feed the fires of creativity while acknowledging and championing the tenacity it takes to make payroll each week.

 

 

 

Try gratitude

Making my rounds to drop the kids at school each morning, I pause to wave at each volunteer crossing guard. On especially frigid mornings, I fling a vigorous wave—not an anemic royal one— towards these altruistic souls. Recently my 6-year-old son asked, “Mom, why do you always do that?”

It is my way of saying “Good morning!” I told him.  In a deeper sense, I explained, it is how I express to them: “I see you there, doing what you’re doing, and I am grateful.”  Without fail, the older gentleman stationed at Elliot and Union, and the other posted at Union and Western, wave back and flashes a cheery grin. I imagine each is thinking, “Thank you for seeing me here.”  I love the ritual of it: making genuine eye contact with another human being first thing in the morning. Through that effortless gesture, I strengthen the tenuous connection that exists between nameless strangers as we face the day’s certain labor and its possible delights. We are here. Together.

No matter how irritated I feel in the moments before my wave, I invariably feel better afterwards. The argument with my 3-year old daughter over why she can’t be Lady Godiva and go to preschool naked, and the agonizing cajoling with my 6-year to please, please, PLEASE back away from his perfectly arranged Playmobil wooly mammoth set up—complete with Lascaux-esque cave drawings—all fade away. I am still, at heart, an impatient former New Yorker who struggles to keep my lurking aggravation in check (Peasants! Make way! I am very busy and very important!), but that daily moment of frank human connection forces me to acknowledge that—no matter how harried I feel—there is always time for respect and kindness.

In that initial hour after “thanking” the crossing guards for their service, I am a happier, more contented driver. I am apt to pause and let drivers stuck at the Citizens Bridge pull out onto Western Ave or I might slow down to signal to a driver on Putney Road that she can pull out from the Marina entrance. I assure you, this is not my usual driving mode; I am often the one scolding hesitant drivers: “Commit, would you?!”  Research on gratitude supports my hunch that expressing thanks helps me feel more positive and relaxed.

Dr. Robert E. Emmons of the University of California, Davis and Dr. Michael E. McCullough of the University of Miami—who have done the bulk of the current research on gratitude—asked participants in a study to jot down a few reflections each week in a journal. One group was specifically asked to write about what they were grateful for; another recorded what irritated them; the third could write about any events of the previous week that affected them, either positively or negatively. Ten weeks later, the ones who wrote about gratitude were more optimistic, reported feeling happier about their lives, and were healthier; they also exercised more and had fewer doctor’s visits than those who’d exclusively written about their aggravations.

Dr. Martin Seligman at the University of Pennsylvania—whom I’ve referenced before in this column—researched the impact of several different positive psychology interventions on over 400 participants. Each intervention was compared to a control assignment of simply writing about early memories. When participants were asked to personally deliver a note expressing their gratitude to someone who’d never been adequately thanked for their thoughtfulness, participants’ happiness scores shot up. The influence lasted for over a month; it was the most effective positive psychology intervention of any of those tested.

I have experienced the deepest gratitude when I have felt the most vulnerable. Once, when my whole family was sick, I had to schlep the kids to the store to buy a few staples. The checkout clerk at the co-op—sensing both my misery and exhaustion—was so kind that I nearly cried. Another time I felt sheer panic in the pediatricians’ office as I tried to comfort my alarmingly feverish son while occupying my fidgety daughter. The doctor and nurses were entirely professional, yes. But it was the tenderness with which they cared for all of us that touched me.

The act of writing a thank you card in both instances declared my acknowledgment that I am grateful they are in the world. I have never once regretted sending a thank you note.

Although it is satisfying and rewarding to express thanks to a stranger, friend or acquaintance, it is just as important to adequately thank those who work for you. Not surprisingly, employees work harder for those who show gratitude.  A study at the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania found that university fundraisers who were told by their boss that she was personally grateful for their hard work made 50% more fundraising calls than those who did not receive a message of gratitude. This is not shocking: It feels good to be thanked for our efforts.

I am imperfect, despite my regimen of “thank yous”.  I can still be impatient and judgmental, moody and intense. I make mistakes and say things I shouldn’t.  I expect too much of my kids and myself, at times. But despite my shortcomings—or perhaps because of them—I am dogged in my commitment to gratitude.

Tomorrow morning, as I once again scramble to get my boisterous rapscallions into the car, I know that at the corner of Elliot and Union I will gladly take a brief respite and enjoy the opportunity to wave “thank you!”

 

 

Lost in translation

Once, on a street corner in Paris, I stopped a Parisian to ask for directions. Having tackled the Louvre and Notre Dame, I was eager to visit La Conciergerie—the former royal palace turned prison where Marie Antoinette was held before her execution. But I couldn’t make sense of my street map. “Excusez-moi, s’il vous plait…” I began. “Où est…” and here everything went completely haywire. Instead of completing my inquiry with “…La Conciergerie?”, I asked instead ““Où est le consierge?” (Where is the hotel attendant?) Bewildered, the man had his own question for me. He said in stilted but crisp English: “Why-do-you-want-him?”  It took a surprisingly long time to comprehend my error and longer for me to stop laughing from embarrassment.  Poor Marie Antoinette! What indignity!  This stupid American thinks I was held captive by a hotel doorman!

I certainly meant well. My parents instilled in me a love of language and word play, as well as an appreciation for culturally diverse experiences. And I had gamely tried to recall my high school French while rifling through several dictionaries and phrase books; I was not going to be the “ugly American” who didn’t even try to speak the native tongue.  But if I could have opted to take my New York Regents exam strictly in “French accent” instead of grammar and vocab, I would have done decidedly better than I did. Something always seemed to get lost for me in translation.

I fear that this same phenomenon may be occurring in our attempts to express the importance of Town Meeting here in Brattleboro. Adopted a little over a half century ago, Brattleboro’s Town Meeting is the only representative town meeting  in Vermont. In all other towns, every eligible voter can attend town meeting and vote on town matters; in Brattleboro, although anyone may attend, only elected representatives vote. Any registered voter in Brattleboro can serve as a town meeting representative.  You wouldn’t think it would be too difficult to collect the required 129 representatives, out of a list of 8000 registered voters. But once again this year, we emerged from the elections on Vermont’s Town Meeting Day with a severe deficit of representatives.

For some reason, perhaps many reasons, most residents do not feel compelled to spend their third Saturday in March hashing out the town and school budgets and their concomitant spending priorities.  Town Meeting apparently does not grab people as immediate, relevant or droll. (Although inevitably someone does say something totally wacky during the course of the day. That can be fun.) Some friends and neighbors do like the representative town meeting system. I, myself, always smirk a bit when I hear someone proudly declare, “Brattleboro is the only town in Vermont with this unique system of government.” (Is that “unique” like “interesting”—in the way visitors comment on your “interesting” choice of paint color in the hallway? It seemed like a good idea at the time…)

Some argue that all residents should still be allowed to attend and vote at town meeting; others believe that we should convert entirely to Australian ballot; and more than a few say that we should have switched to a mayoralty a long time ago.  A strong case can be made for each of these options, but, here’s the thing: This is the system we’ve got—now and for the foreseeable future.  The painstaking, thorough, multi-year Charter Review process came and went; we still have Representative Town Meeting.

Many of us shake our heads and ask, “Why don’t more young people care enough to get involved and become Town Meeting representatives?”  Perhaps, like my linguistic mishap in Paris, we are asking the wrong question. Maybe this style of town meeting has run its course. The Millennials have a very different relationship to information, news and political involvement. This could very well translate into a new, not-yet-conceived model for citizen interaction.

According to the Pew Research 2013 Internet Project, an astounding 90% of 18-29 year-olds use social networking sites; almost 2/3 of these young people access and load social networking information from their smart phones. And their use of social networking sites is not limited to connecting with friends and family. Pew Research from October 2012 indicates that younger users are much more politically engaged online than older users. They are more likely to “post links to political material, encourage others to take political action, belong to a political group on a social networking site, follow elected officials on social media, and…promote political material others have posted.”  We often mischaracterize them as “disconnected”, but they are simply differently-connected.

When I first moved to Vermont, the Town Meeting photos in the newspaper, taken at meetings from across our county, were of attendees knitting while listening to the proceedings. These folks remained engaged while unabashedly multi-tasking. There is little difference between knitting and purling, and sitting and posting; we just perceive one as more virtuous.  Perhaps we are now shifting from Knitter World to Twitter World.

To that end, I will be “tweeting” for the very first time ever—from Town Meeting. I have put aside my own hesitation and bewilderment and set up a Twitter account. Admittedly, I am still trying to figure out just how it works. But I hope to have it sorted out by Town Meeting. By tweeting about Town Meeting I will attempt to start a new conversation about civic engagement—one aimed directly at our politically-minded young Brattleborians.

 Here’s hoping this conversation isn’t lost in translation.

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