There are things that I have been told or that I have seen in passing in social media (like the visual quote in this posting) in regards to sacrifice. Often, my friends would tell me about how much I sacrificed myself and regularly warn, “Don’t sacrifice yourself for anyone.” At one time I agreed with this edict-protect myself at all costs, and hold on to my “true” self. Given various life experiences, I no longer agree with what seems to be a widely accepted view of self-sacrifice.
According to the Webster Dictionary (merriam-webster.com), the word sacrifice means:
1: an act of offering to a deity something precious;
2: something offered in sacrifice;
3: a :destruction or surrender of something for the sake of something else; b : something given up or lost.
Perhaps I am sugar coating or getting too new-agey, but there is always a beauty in what human beings are willing to do/offer to others in the name of sacrifice. Honestly, if you ever want to taste the sweet nectar for human connection (can be friendship, familyship, loveship) sacrifice is what it is all about. How can we ever grow or be introduced to new selves if we are trying to hold on to old copies of who we think we are in the world? It is indeed being open to experiences and people that help us to: challenge who we think we are, open up new parts of ourselves, and extend into new realms of being. No, I am not advocating that it is okay to change for anyone. But there is nothing wrong with changing or sacrificing because you initially saw value in shedding old baggage/belief systems/behaviors/etc. Remember, sacrifice is not a one-way avenue. When any one of us have sacrificed anything, it was because we saw it as a divine invite to offer something precious of ourselves.