I wrote a short piece a while ago about goals and things not truly hugging you or your spirit. One of my lines included “Goals/to-do lists will not give you hugs, or just cradle you if you are having a rough go of life at the moment.” However, there is another side of what I wrote some time ago that I would like to share. I had to give some more thought to a topic that I often internally struggle with–being busy to a point of a possible workaholic. I have often chosen to work, write, dance, do projects or many other things as opposed to being with my beloveds. If I am in a relationship, I would rather a partner who understands my many passions and supports me as I dive deep into them. Many moments throughout my life, my ideal of spending time together was sharing space while we both got high off of what we loved to do.
Often in substitute of a partner or relationship, I become intimately involved with everything that sets my soul ablaze. Someone recently said that they noticed that I was a borderline workaholic but that much of what I did was not really work because I enjoyed it so much. This has always been my rule for being so engaged with everything. Whether paid or volunteer, whether passion exploration or something nameless that my intuition has to chase–it must have meaning, I must fall in love with it.
Thus, this is what I want to say to many of you who may be like me–chasing your white rabbit while setting your path ablaze so that you may also stoke your inner wild fires. You may be questioning whether or not this is time well spent or if you should be plotting to find your partner instead. Projects, work, and all of the things that feed your passions may not walk, speak or look like love because they are not standing upon two legs with a beautiful face. But they are love in many ways. For many who may feel like they are waiting or wanting to be with that special someone or wished to have things to share, I offer that you are already in the moment of sharing when you have become so engaged with that which feeds your soul. No. These things or externals don’t take the place of arms or a shoulder but we should expand what love looks and feels like. It is seeing your creativity come to life in the world, seeing the faces of those who become engaged with what you have created & shared. Most importantly it is the spark in your eyes or glow upon your skin from the inspiration that made you dizzy. So look around you. Your love may not be standing upon two legs, but most likely it is already in everything that you do. And if you don’t have that…then go it it because it is waiting for you.